They look at you. They're judging. They see the person they think you are. But do they know you ? Do they really really know you ? They tell you that you've got it all wrong. That you don't know what you're doing. But do they know you enough to criticize...enough to judge?
As often as not, people-society-tell us who we are. Who we should be. And we, not believing in ourselves, think they know better. They shove their assumptions and their criticism down our throat like a pill to swallow. And we take it. Because they have such a strong hold on us, that EVERYTHING they say seems right. Some of us question ourselves, our beliefs...thinking that somewhere or the other, we've gone wrong. Everything we do is wide of the mark. They make us believe that we're flawed. And no matter what we do, or say...nothing can change that.
Sometimes it so happens that we let people into our personal space. Open up to them. Make them a part of our lives. But does that mean, we give them a right to judge us? We give them so much of preference, that we fail to perceive how it eventually becomes our weakness. We give them a foothold into our lives and they take advantage of the fact that we hold their opinion in high regard. So they judge. They tell us what to do. They tell us, what THEY think we should do. They assume we need correction and accusation every step of the way. When someone means something to you, you go to great lengths to make them happy. You compromise. You change. You adjust. You adapt. You become everything you're not, but everything they want you to be. Yet. They criticize. They Judge.
No. No one has the right to judge you. No one has the right to make you feel like you're not capable of anything. Some do it to protect you, some to discourage and beat up your self esteem. But at the end of the day no one has the right to tell you who you are...but YOU. Nobody knows you the way you know yourself. The being you are within. No matter what anyone says, only you have the right to judge, to condemn and to applaud yourself. Nobody else could, nobody else SHOULD do it for you.
Because they...THEY don't know you. Not the way YOU know you.
As often as not, people-society-tell us who we are. Who we should be. And we, not believing in ourselves, think they know better. They shove their assumptions and their criticism down our throat like a pill to swallow. And we take it. Because they have such a strong hold on us, that EVERYTHING they say seems right. Some of us question ourselves, our beliefs...thinking that somewhere or the other, we've gone wrong. Everything we do is wide of the mark. They make us believe that we're flawed. And no matter what we do, or say...nothing can change that.
Sometimes it so happens that we let people into our personal space. Open up to them. Make them a part of our lives. But does that mean, we give them a right to judge us? We give them so much of preference, that we fail to perceive how it eventually becomes our weakness. We give them a foothold into our lives and they take advantage of the fact that we hold their opinion in high regard. So they judge. They tell us what to do. They tell us, what THEY think we should do. They assume we need correction and accusation every step of the way. When someone means something to you, you go to great lengths to make them happy. You compromise. You change. You adjust. You adapt. You become everything you're not, but everything they want you to be. Yet. They criticize. They Judge.
No. No one has the right to judge you. No one has the right to make you feel like you're not capable of anything. Some do it to protect you, some to discourage and beat up your self esteem. But at the end of the day no one has the right to tell you who you are...but YOU. Nobody knows you the way you know yourself. The being you are within. No matter what anyone says, only you have the right to judge, to condemn and to applaud yourself. Nobody else could, nobody else SHOULD do it for you.
Because they...THEY don't know you. Not the way YOU know you.
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